TURN IT AROUND TUESDAY TIP #4 of TEN

This blog is about husbands who are unhappy.  It seems that this is a major marital disease.  There are a lot guys out there who are just not happy.  It may be because they are NOT dealing with their anger and depression (see my book Perfect Circle).  It is my firm conviction that it is husband’s mood that sets the tone in any home.  If the Sargent isn’t happy, the troops are not happy.  If the head coach is mad – watch out in practice on Monday!  Too often we believe, wrongly, that is mom isn’t happy the house is not happy.  But this is wrong because if forgets that it is actually dad that who it the head.  He is the Sargent, coach and leader – if there are kids they will look to him.  A wife will have her emotions.  Not because she is a female, so save the PMS jokes.  She will have emotions because she is a human.  Plus she has to deal with marriage to you.  So she is not always happy, but when the leader leads in terms happiness you get a happy home.  It is up to the husband to be happy.

Why should you be happy?  Well if you are a Christian you could start with Gospel.  God saved you when you didn’t deserve it.  But for some deep material I turn to the One-hit-wonder group from 1969, called Mercy (interesting don’t you gospel folks think?).  They wrote a song with this title “(Love) can make you happy.”  The parentheses are part of the title.  Some of the copyrighted lyrics are as follows:

Love can make you happy if you find someone who cares

To give a life time to you and who has a love to share

La-love, la-love

Love can make you happy

Love can make you happy

Love can make you happy,

Love

Here is my point – you were VERY fortunate to be found by Jesus.  He actually came to you.  Then, you found someone who would give their entire life to YOU, someone who cares for you.  That should make you very happy.  Now as the coach or Sargent would yell – “get out there and act like it”, even if you are not feeling it right now.  Commands to love and even happiness are to be followed not debated.  Feelings will take care of themselves.

Turn it around Tuesday Tip – want to be in a happy marriage?  Realize you found someone who loves and cares and then put a smile on your face and keep it there.

Verse of the week:

Proverbs 10:28 the hope of the righteous brings joy, but the expectation of the wicked will perish.

2 thoughts on “TURN IT AROUND TUESDAY TIP #4 of TEN

  1. Roger Trca

    I absolutely agree with Don’s comments. Husbands/fathers set the tone in the home. We need to focus on our blessings each day. Praise Him in the good as well as challenging times. Making date nights a priority with your wife helps nurture happy marriages. Keep up the great blog!

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